Many people leave the funeral plan to the discretion of those that survive. However, there is no reason why you should not indicate your preferences to your next of kin. Brief details can be incorporated in your will or you can even have us, at Harry Tomes Ltd., store your wishes for you. By writing down a funeral plan you can remove some of the burden on your loved ones when you pass away, and typically your family will feel happy carrying out wishes knowing they they were honoring your memory in the way you wished.
There is no specific format to a funeral plan and you can include as much or as little detail as you choose.
Here are some points to consider:
- Burial or creamtion: Cremation is the more popular method but certain religions will specify burial.
- Form of ceremony: most funerals conform to religious practice. However, if you prefer, it is possible to have a secular funeral with no reference to an afterlife.
- Place of the funeral: many funerals are held at the crematorium or the cemetery chapel, but if you have links to a particular place you may prefer to have it there. Some funerals are quiet family affairs and then followed later for a thanksgiving for the life of the deceased
- Place of burial: if you have chosen burial, you might have a family grave or vault where you wish to be buried. If you choose cremation, you may state where you would like your ashes to be scattered or kept. There is a trend to be buried in nature reserves of woodland.
- Funeral conductor: you may have a person in mind who you would like to conduct the funeral, for example your local vicar or family friend. It is sensible to suggest alternatives, just in case the person is unavailable.
- Music: If you have any particular affection for certain songs or hymns then you might want to specify which ones should be played at your funeral.
- Flowers or donations: If you prefer that mourners give to a charity as opposed to buy flowers, then it’s a good idea to nominate a particular charity you would like to see contributions sent to.
- Hospitality after the funeral: many people planning their funeral suggest a reception after the funeral service. This can be a nice way to lift people’s spirits.
It is also a good idea to name which funeral director you would like to use and pass on this recommendation to your next of kin. After a person’s death the next of kin might feel under pressure to appoint a funeral director and dot normally have time to shop around.
Unless you forbid this, it is normal to include a short account of the deceased’s life at the funeral service. Occasionally precise information is hard to come by at short notice, so it might be worthwhile setting down the main points of your life (with dates) so that it can be referred to during the service.
Who’s in charge when I die
Your next of kin and your executor(s) are in charge when you die. If you have no will or no close relatives there can sometimes be complications.
Should I make a will
By making a Will you will ensure that your assets, no matter how small, are distributed in line with your wishes.
Making a Will
A will sets out how your estate (your assets) should be distributed, and names an executor(s) to take care of this task. A will is only valid if your signature has been witnessed by 2 adults who are not beneficiaries of the will in anyway.